Hi! My name is Daria. I am a meditation guide and mindfulness coach devoted to integrating ancient wisdom with modern science, helping others reconnect with their innate wholeness.
Today I would like to talk about FORGIVENESS.
Yes, we all have deadlines and responsibilities. And yes the world feels intense sometimes.
But have you ever looked inside in silence and asked yourself:
How do I feel right now about:
- Unforgiven words?
- Unprocessed disappointments?
- Old betrayals?
- Failures I never made peace with?
Do I still judge some versions of myself?
Usually we simply carry them quietly.
But carrying is heavy. Isn't it?
The truth is: when we are not able to forgive, the body does not forget. The nervous system does not forget.
Research in psychology and neuroscience shows that holding onto anger and resentment activates the stress response in the body. Studies from Stanford University’s Forgiveness Project found that people who practiced forgiveness experienced reduced levels of stress, anger, and hurt, and increased levels of optimism.
Chronic resentment, in contrary, has been linked to elevated cortisol levels — the primary stress hormone — which over time contributes to anxiety, sleep disturbances, high blood pressure, and even weakened immunity.
It is fascinating, isn’t it? The past is over, but the body still reacts as if it is happening now.
Dr. Frederic Luskin, who has led decades of research on forgiveness, found that learning to forgive significantly reduces symptoms of depression and anxiety. When people shift from rumination to forgiveness, they experience measurable improvements in emotional well-being.
And maybe you have felt this in your own life.
Have you noticed that once you made peace with someone — truly made peace — the sun starts shining brighter? The air feels lighter. You breathe deeper without even trying.
Nothing outside changed.
But something inside did.
Forgiveness is not about saying that what happened was acceptable. It is not about approving bad behavior. It is not about becoming passive.
It is about releasing yourself from the emotional prison of the past.
Joe Dispenza often speaks about how emotions are chemical states in the body. When we rehearse anger, when we replay resentment, the body becomes addicted to those familiar stress chemicals. We can become conditioned to live in survival mode — in bitterness, blame, defensiveness — without even realizing it. According to neuroscience, the more we fire certain emotional patterns, the more wired they become.
But the opposite is also true.
When we intentionally cultivate compassion, gratitude, and forgiveness, we begin to rewire those neural pathways. Research in neuroplasticity confirms that the brain changes based on repeated emotional experiences. Studies on loving-kindness and compassion meditation show increased activity in brain regions associated with empathy and emotional regulation, and decreased activation in areas linked to fear and threat response (such as the amygdala).
We replace chronic stress chemistry with states associated with safety and connection. Oxytocin and serotonin begin to flow more freely. The parasympathetic nervous system — the part responsible for rest and healing — becomes activated.
And something very beautiful happens.
When we forgive ourselves for our failures, for not knowing better at the time, for being imperfect humans learning through mistakes — we soften. And when we soften toward ourselves, it becomes easier to soften toward others.
It is difficult to forgive others while still punishing yourself.
But when you can say:
“I did the best I could with the awareness I had then.”
“I am allowed to grow.”
“I am allowed to change.”
something shifts.
Bitterness begins to dissolve. And in its place, there is space.
From that space, joy naturally appears.
Not forced joy. Not toxic positivity.
But a quiet, grounded joy.
Forgiveness is also making peace within yourself. Sometimes the conflict is not even with another person. It is between who you were and who you are becoming. Between expectations and reality. Between the life you imagined and the life that unfolded.
And still — you can choose to release.
This is where meditation becomes not just a practice, but a form of therapy.
In guided meditation, you are invited to observe your emotions without being overwhelmed by them. You can sit with anger without exploding. You can acknowledge resentment without feeding it. You can allow sadness without drowning in it.
Meditation activates brain regions involved in emotional regulation and decreases reactivity in the amygdala. It helps create space between stimulus and response. That space is where forgiveness becomes possible.
In a safe, guided space, you can:
• Revisit painful memories without feeling judged
• Feel anger without being consumed by it
• Offer compassion to yourself gently
• Visualize release
• Invite love back into the heart
You do not have to force forgiveness.
You do not have to pretend.
You simply allow.
And if you do not know where to begin, I'd be honored to support and guide you.
For you to become free.
With kindness,
Daria 💚
